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Dear <$firstname$>, Welcome, Success is incremental. Most ‘overnight successes’ spent fifteen years becoming one…and sometimes longer. At the end of the day, do you look at what you have accomplished? Or, do you focus on what did not get done? It is VERY important to acknowledge what you do. There will always be more than enough that could fill every day. The essential thing—only essential if you want to like yourself and have any modicum of peace in your life—is to prioritize and focus on the what you have accomplished and where it is leading you. Join Dr. Beth Halbert, known as “Dr. Beth,” and Emily Bouchard of“ Blended Families,” for a free live teleconference in Los Angeles on Sunday, November 6. To sign up or for more information on this teleconference, please send an email to drbeth@drbeth.com. In this Issue:More from Rhoberta... NOTE: We would all do well to follow the advice in the ‘Bit By Bit’ article below. Be sure to read it! You can knock yourself out on the small, incidental things in a day and forget the big things. Days can fly by that way and you’ll be no further ahead. You may remember the metaphor that Stephen Covey used in his book The Seven Habits of Highly Effective People. He was talking about getting all your rocks in your jar with many of those rocks being quite big ones. If you put all the little rocks in first, there is no room for the big ones. The wisdom he offers is ‘Put the big rocks in first.’ Are you putting the big rocks of your life in your day or week first? If not, don’t be surprised if you feel overwhelmed. Last week I did a Teleseminar for a company serving 30,000 business managers. The topic was ‘How to Give and Receive Criticism Effectively in the Workplace’. Many of you may want that information. Call me and let’s talk about doing a Teleseminar for your staff. The list is below and we can schedule them at times convenient for five or more of your people. You are way ahead of the pack if you’re reading this ezine because you care enough to enrich your skills and your life. Well done! Rhoberta Rhoberta Shaler, PhD P.S. I'm booking keynotes, training, and teleseminars now for the upcoming year. Let's talk about the needs of your department, division or company and find ways to work together. Send me an email at RS@OptimizeInstitute.com or give me a call at 760.735.8686. I'm looking forward to working with you. Let's make a difference together. INSPIRING WORDS FOR YOUR POST-IT™ NOTES
IMPROVING YOUR WORKLIFE:Superheroes Need Not Apply Are you a work superhero(ine)? Are you the one who knows where everything is, what everything costs, what happened to last year's _______ and, who did what to whom when? In addition, are you the one who can fix anything, soothe the raging client and stay late daily? AND, are you the one through whom everything must pass, or the only person who can do specific, critical tasks? Is everyone dependent upon you for something? TELESEMINARS FOR YOUR TEAM
Watch out! You are not likely to be next in line for a promotion. Why not? You have made yourself too critical to the organization. If you are that indispensable and irreplaceable, how can you ever be promoted? There is another downside to being a 'superhero(ine)'. You stand squarely in line for blame and criticism. You are a walking target. You are in danger of becoming the bottleneck in your organization. It may feel to you like control and power, however, in reality, it is fraught with danger and uncertainty. If others cannot do their work before you complete a task, who will they point to when deadlines loom? On the other hand, there is great joy in Mudville, when you step up to bat...if you always hit a homer. Superhero(ine)s can be marvelous, organized founts of knowledge and skill. They can also be perfectionists and control freaks. You likely know one in each category. Sometimes the superhero(ine) actually hoards tasks and takes on additional responsibilities in a bid to become indispensable. Sometimes, they simply want to prove what they are capable of producing. We are all superhero(ine)s at times if we want to move up in our organizations. The distinguishing feature is our awareness of our reasons for undertaking tasks and responsibilities. Your value to your organization is actually raised when you teach others to perform competently, when you delegate well and increase the skill and knowledge of others. Some great advice from Harry E. Chambers, author of Getting Promoted, is: "Learn as much as you can about as many functions, tasks, and roles as possible, but do not insist upon doing them all yourself. Learn to give them away. Refusing to allow others to learn and expand their boundaries is considered weakness. Being the perceived bottleneck or control freak can be to your career what Kryptonite is to Superman!" Think carefully about your roles and goals. Be on track to success on your own terms. © Rhoberta Shaler, PhD Dr. Rhoberta Shaler solves 'people problems' at work by making it easier to talk about difficult things. Dr. Shaler speaks to, trains and coaches executives and entrepreneurs worldwide in the communication skills essential to creating powerful conversations that reduce conflict & anger, build trust, and streamline negotiation. The rewards: stronger teams, optimized productivity and increased profits. Author of over a dozen books and audio programs, Dr. Shaler's new book, 'Wrestling Rhinos: Conquering Conflict in the Wilds of Work' is receiving rave reviews for "teaching people to play nicely in the company sandbox". She is the founder of the Optimize! Institute in Escondido, CA. www.OptimizeInstitute.com This article may be reprinted or republished if the complete copyright/resource information is kept intact. For a formatted version for print, email info@optimizeinstitute.com IMPROVING YOUR LIFE:BIT BY BIT Sometimes in life we seem to have to hear the same message many, many times, from many different sources, before we turn it from words into action in our own lives . Have you noticed this about yourself? I have certainly noticed it in my life. So many times we hear that we are most likely to succeed when we consistently do the right things to reach our goals--and so many times we seem to ignore it! Robert Collier said, “Success is the sum of small efforts, repeated day in and day out.” That certainly seems to be good advice. Think about your desktop or your exercise program. OK, the quote does say “small efforts”, however, the occasional flight of stairs doesn’t quite make an exercise program, now does it? Nor does that clear space in the very middle of your desk quite make an organized workspace. (It is easy for me to use these two examples as they are two areas in which I have to be vigilant! Many of you may very well be on an excellent weekly exercise program and have a desk that is completely clear each evening. If so, pardon these examples, please, Choose ones that are a challenge for you.) I recently heard an excellent speaker, Allan Weiss, from Rhode Island, who spoke of the 1% solution. He said that if we would improve 1% per day, we would be twice as “good” in seventy days. It makes sense. So often we use the “upheaval approach” to change. That’s my term for wanting to change many areas of life at once. Why not try the 1% solution? For today, why not improve one area of your life by 1%? You may find it so easy that you want to do the same thing tomorrow! © Rhoberta Shaler, PhD All rights reserved. This article may be reprinted or republished if the complete copyright/resource information is kept intact. For a formatted version for print, email info@optimizeinstitute.com |
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