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Dear <$firstname$>, The world is speeding up as I'm sure you have noticed. One thing seems to be that, when you ask someone how they are and they answer "Exhausted!" it's somehow supposed to be a badge of honor. It's almost as if doing too much for too long is a "see who drops first" kind of game. I hope you're not playing! We need good skills to create a well-balanced approach to all areas of life. Eat well. Exercise. Rest well. Reduce stress. Spend quiet time. Laugh often. You can fill in the list. We've all read Reader's Digest or Psychology Today or even, Fast Company. You know the drill. The trick is whether or not you are practicing extreme self-care. Remember, you cannot give a gift you do not have. Take good care of yourself. F R E E Teleseminar with Debbie Bermont -- Learn How To Align Your Marketing For Outrageous Business GrowthThis f*r*e*e teleseminar is for the entrepreneur who wants to know how to align their marketing so that they have a significant increase in sales in a short amount of time. Debbie Bermont, author and marketing expert, will share with Dr. Shaler and attendees the inspiring story of how her Grandfather, a poor Russian immigrant, successfully built and sold several businesses in the US with NO marketing budget and no formal education past the fifth grade. Debbie reveals the Business Success Formula™ he used to market his business and build his multimillion dollar empire. She shows you the three principles you must master and apply to your business to get the full impact of this formula. And most importantly, Debbie shows you how to apply this powerful formula to your business to get IMMEDIATE results and accelerate your sales growth no matter which way the economy is headed.
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More from Rhoberta... One way to get the skills you need to make work easier and life happier is to take a teleseminar. What could be easier? Learn on the phone--the exact skills you need--without driving, parking or leaving work. Our new teleseminars for the next two months will be out next week. I'll send you a personal email with the topics, dates and times. Watch for it! Summer is a great time to get your business plan, marketing materials and systems ready for launching. I have a few open coaching spots. Visit my website at www.optimizeinstitute.com/coaching and book your cost-fr*ee half hour coaching consultation. Let me help you hit the ground running in August or September. Have you visited my blog at www.AskRhoberta.com ? That's a great place for us to meet. Have a look and ask any question you might have related to motivation, inspiration, communication, negotiation or other workplace issues. Happy summer! Rhoberta Rhoberta Shaler, PhD
IMPROVING YOUR WORKLIFE:Appreciation is Never Wasted "Thank you." So good to hear. So simple to say. So, why are so many folks longing to hear it? There is little that goes further towards improving relationships than a genuine "Thank you." You know that. Why, then, do so many folks have difficulty with it? Are we moving too quickly to notice what others do for us? Do we just expect so much that we fail to acknowledge the little things? Is there some small part of us that refuses to give what we're not getting? You have probably heard "It's part of your/his/her job. It's your responsibility." Sure, it may be. Does that mean that it does not deserve acknowledgment? You can bet it would be acknowledged if it was not done! At home, we often take each other for granted. We 'expect'. We say things like, "If you really loved me, you would _______." Those are expectations delivered in a bartering mode. Where is the appreciation for what they do? Do you expect that the garbage will go out or the dishes will be put away? Why? Because it's their job? How about saying 'Thank you'? Everyone likes recognition for the things they do. It's a very easy habit to acquire. • Do you feel comfortable, competent & confident in your
people skills? If your answer to any of these questions
is NO… Not sure coaching is right for you? Try a complimentary 1/2 hour consultation and find out! Ever lived with teenagers? The easiest way to engage them is to catch them doing something right. That means saying 'Thank you' when they do it, too. If you think this is too easy, try it for a month. Tell them what you see that you like, what you like about what they are doing/wearing/thinking. Forget about adding anything about what you don't like. You'll see the relationship change positively. Still sound too easy? Try it! Simply look and you'll find many things each day worthy of acknowledgment. Stop and appreciate what IS being done for you...and, say so. William James, the great American psychologist, said, "The deepest principle in human nature is the craving to be appreciated." Is there a part of you that longs to be seen, recognized and acknowledged? Every person feels better when they are appreciated. There is another side to appreciation. It is equally as important as recognition. William James calls it wisdom. He says, "The art of being wise is the art of knowing what to overlook." Ah! That's worth thinking about, isn't it? Do you know what to overlook and when to overlook it? That can only happen when you step outside of yourself, your needs and wants, and see another person wholly. When you can calibrate what is most important at any given moment in a relationship, you are very wise. Often, when I am working with workplace teams, conflict is worst when folks do not know what to overlook. When tempers flare and approaches differ, nitpicking escalates. When deadlines loom and funding fails, fingers point. A wise person takes a step back and looks at the whole picture. What is happening here? What do we want to happen? What outcomes do we want this exchange to create? This is the time to focus on appreciation and follow it with team problem-solving. The same is true in all relationships. If things are getting tense, reflect on the last time you felt appreciated. More importantly, when was the last time you found something to appreciate in another? This could well be at the bottom of the anger, frustration, fear or hurt that you are feeling. You can fix this with good communication and assertion skills. Start with yourself. Give first. Demanding to receive when the other person is feeling empty will only escalate the negatives. Whoever is most sane at the moment in any relationship is the one responsible for that relationship. Let that be you. Let's not be too busy, or too important, to stop, see, and acknowledge the contributions of others. And, once is not enough. Each time the garbage is taken out or the report is handed in, each time they bring you coffee or extend themselves on your behalf, say 'Thank you'. Appreciation is never wasted.
You'll feel better. And, very soon, it will come back to you. I promise. © Rhoberta Shaler, PhD This article may be reprinted or republished if the complete copyright/resource information is kept in tact. For a formatted version for print, email info@optimizeinstitute.com
IMPROVING YOUR LIFE:Daily Opportunities BONUS ARTICLEOutrageous Business Growth™ – by Debbie Bermont Could you build a wildly successful business today without a website and a large marketing budget? Of course you can. In fact people have been building successful businesses for centuries of time without the tools we have at our disposal today. And don't forget to register for Debbie's F R E E Teleseminar on the same topic! Every day you have the opportunity to do things differently. Every day you have the opportunity to change and grow. You can find comfort in knowing that you can reorient yourself in the direction of you goals instantly by reading them and recommitting, sometimes more than once a day! No matter what you did yesterday, you can choose again today. Are you using that opportunity? For some folks, a pattern exists--that of continually "beating themselves up" for mistakes from the past. You know, the "I-should-have-known-better", "I-should-have-seen-it-coming" variety of self-talk. That kind of talk is only useful once or twice in any situation, and it only has value at all if it is used to determine what could have been done differently and to learn from the experience. Some folks make a life work of beating themselves up for past mistakes, or missed opportunities. In fact, some people in some cultures focus entirely on the wrongs done to them generations before and generate anger that prevents them from seeing clearly in the present moment. Energy use is a choice, too. Knowing both the direction in which you wish your life to go, and how you would like to feel on the journey, gives you the information necessary for drawing your personal map. It is your choice what you take on this trip, which path you will follow and when you would like to reach your destination. It is your journey, and, therefore, your choice. Sure, you may find some bridges washed out and have to find alternative pathways. You may find unexpected jungles that slow you down, however, remembering where you are headed rather than bemoaning what you left behind, will always move you forward. For today, read your goals. (If you do not have any written goals, commit to writing one in each of four categories, today--physical, intellectual, social/emotional and spiritual.) Take one step, large or small, in the direction of at least one goal before you sleep tonight. Just before you drift off to sleep, review your day and acknowledge yourself for the steps you have taken and make a plan for tomorrow. © Rhoberta Shaler, PhD All rights reserved. This article may be reprinted or republished if the complete copyright/resource information is kept in tact. For a formatted version for print, email info@optimizeinstitute.com Founding Member of i-COP • SUBSCRIBE HERE • UPDATE YOUR INFO HERE • TELL A FRIEND You may automatically unsubscribe or change your subscription address using the links at the very bottom of this message. |
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